“To my biological family, I forgive you, for neglecting me, for not accepting me and …”

I don’t normally do this but I thought it’d be nice to let it go to the universe (media is a fraction of it) and release me from the bottled feelings. I never got to do this for myself, this is the first time I am writing a letter, to myself and those who are interested in reading. To my biological family, I forgive you, for neglecting me, for not accepting me and for putting me

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“For months, I couldn’t forgive myself”

What is the biggest regret you have in your life and how has that affected you? If you have another chance, what would you do differently? ​ When I was 15, my grandma passed away and I didn’t know about it. My parents chose not to tell me because I was in the middle of high school entrance examination. They knew it would affect me if I was informed. So they told me that

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“Life, for us in this society, could be as good as yours”

“Before Christmas a friend said “You and Chris aren’t very affectionate in public. Is it because you just aren’t very affectionate or is it something else?” The thing is, from my perspective, I always thought we actually were. If we’re dining with friends and Chris is beside me I’ll casually place my hand on his back and give him a light caress perhaps even a brief head rub. I may even lean against him if the

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“I’m not feeling right… I’m not your son anymore… I’m your daughter. Please don’t hate me…”

Coming out as gay and coming out as trans are two very different things. It’s not just one little coming out; it’s this giant switch and some people choose to take it slowly, and some people do it in one big motion. I was scared of taking it too quickly and hurting people. It’s not just something that affects you; it affects family and relationships and everything changes. Before I turned fourteen I had

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“Oh my God, I haven’t actually ‘lived’…”

I remember thinking when I was 25 that the most important thing was just to live life – to travel, to see different things, to experience life ‘in the raw’, to have great loves, read sublime literature, to learn new things, to have memories… My greatest fear was to reach the age of 80 and think: ‘Oh my God, I haven’t actually ‘lived’. Well, nearly a quarter of a century later, I continue to believe

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“It’s very tiring to be a woman…”

Being a woman in my country (Colombia) is actually an ‘adventure’. There’s an expectation that we have to dress-up well and make ourselves physically sexy or beautiful in front of people before we deserved to be complimented. Our outfit has to be eye-catching, our body has to be in shape and curvy, our smile has to be sweet and alluring, our make-up has to be appropriate and proportionate etc. To be honest, it’s very

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“I went through my teens and twenties feeling ashamed of who I was as an Aboriginal person”.

It means a lot for me to be an Aboriginal woman with a strong sense of cultural connection. It’s the foundations of one’s identity. For me as an Aboriginal woman I feel honoured to have the bloodlines running through me that belong to the oldest living culture in the world, and this country should be proud of that too. ​ Having a sense of belonging is extremely important to me because if I didn’t

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“At times, I feel totally exhausted and lost…”

The word FAMILY means different things to different people. To me, it means the love I have towards my husband and kids, the support I can offer to all of them, the happiness of creating a life journey together, and a responsibility in which I have to embrace and honour all my life. My kids will grow up pretty quickly and eventually, they will go away and create their own life journey but my

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“It’s too late for him to do anything now and I never want to see him again”

My childhood was one of the worst memories I have in my mind. It started when I was very young, around 5-ish. I could still remember the incident vividly as if it happened yesterday. My sister and I were in the lounge room and she accidentally broke a vase. My father asked who did it and my sister pointed her finger towards me and accused me of the wrongdoing. He then reacted very impulsively

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“I did however fall into a spiral for a while where I no longer thought I could be happy.”

It’s funny to see the reactions of people when they find out that I am gay, from my early teens it was rather obvious to my mother but not my friends and family. I guess as they say a mother knows all. I was a very musically minded child and loved my sport, cricket and football (AFL). Even today some can pick it immediately and others like my work colleagues have no clue. It

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