Coming out as gay and coming out as trans are two very different things. It’s not just one little coming out; it’s this giant switch and some people choose to take it slowly, and some people do it in one big motion. I was scared of taking it too quickly and hurting people. It’s not just something that affects you; it affects family and relationships and everything changes. Before I turned fourteen I had a lot of stuff going on that kept me from figuring things out. I definitely felt connected to the LGBTI community, but I couldn’t pin it on anything. The feelings were there, but not identifiable. A pivotal moment was when I was in Year 8 and my teacher put up a poster that said: ‘Some boys like boys. Some girls like girls. And some like both’. They were rolling out the safe schools posters and I didn’t know that at the time, but just to read that on the wall was really affirming. Then in Year 9 a friend came out as trans. After they told me I did some research and I started looking at male to female and it was like ‘Whoa! Okay!’ I wasn’t upset, it was just like something had hit a nerve and I wasn’t quite sure what it was.